Lisa Bonchek Adams is a writer who’s cancer has mestastasized and she doesn’t have much longer to live. But don’t feel pity for her, instead take her advice.
Lisa has a blog where she talks openly about her illness, but she also talks about other things. I stumbled upon it about a year ago after a friend of mine passed away due to cancer.
This week she wrote a piece for Huffington Post that is a beautiful view into her relationship with her daughter. It also is a tutorial on how to get over yourself.
I’m going through a rough patch right now, and I get impatient that things are moving in my direction as fast as I think they should. I have been working since I was 12 years old, and being idle isn’t something I deal with very well. I can keep busy, but then I feel guilty, because I think I should be constantly looking for a job. I was whining to my wife about it.
And then I came across Lisa’s article, and I realized, once again that I am blessed. I am healthy. And my wife and kids are healthy.
In it, she tells of a conversation she had with her daughter about her illness:
I told her that yes, I was scared. I explained that my fear usually comes from the unknown, in this case just how I will respond to treatments. I told her it was okay to be scared. That it’s normal. That sometimes that fear makes you brave enough to do things you don’t think you can otherwise do.
I told her that I understood that sickness could be scary, that I didn’t want her to be afraid of me as I got sicker someday. “I would never be afraid of you, Mom. I’m only afraid of cancer,” she said. My heart squeezed and thrashed and the tears flowed.
Be grateful. Be strong. And have the best day ever!