I’ll start this with a story from Saturday. I’m getting onto I-95 from Route 32, my daughter is following me, so I’m being cautious.
The merge lane onto 95 at 32 enters from the far left, so traffic is usually pretty quick in that lane, unless there’s traffic. I enter going the speed limit, but that’s too slow for the guy coming behind me, so he gives me all sorts of hand signals, showing his distaste for my driving.
As his anger reaches a crescendo, I move over so he can pass. Of course, this means he has to glare at me as he drives by, adding a middle finger salute as he does. At this point I notice the peace sign on his bumper sticker.
Strangely, this is the third time in the past few years, where a car with peace, love and understanding type bumper stickers has either shown rage at me, or in one scary instance, followed me off a ramp and challenged me to a fight.
What is the point of saying outwardly that you’re all about peace and non-violence, and yet you fly off the handle at the slightest of driving errors? Are the stickers something you’re working towards? Like one day you’d LIKE to be non-violent. Is it a goal, or a charade you’re playing out?
I know a few of you who know me may be be saying, “Hey, Jojo, you’ve been known to fly off the handle on the road.” Yup. But I don’t have signs on my car saying I won’t.
Check out this list from LifeHacker.com of five annoying types of people, and how you should deal with them.
1.) Line-Cutters. Your first option is to just ignore them and let them cut in. But if you can’t let it slide, do three things: First, make sure you don’t act angry or they’ll get defensive.
Next, ask someone else if they saw the person cut, so you have some back-up. Then confront the person about it as soon as possible, because if you wait five minutes, they’ll be even more defensive about it.
2.) People Who Love Arguing, Even When They Know They’re Wrong. This one’s tough, because you’re dealing with someone who’s irrational. So the best approach is to try avoiding the argument altogether.
If you decide to argue away, just make sure you’re right, or they’ll be even more adamant during your next argument.
3.) Overbearing Family Members. The best thing to do is set clear boundaries so they don’t get under your skin too much. But since you don’t want to create drama, you also have to choose your battles and let some of the small stuff slide.
That’s especially true if you’ll only be around them for a short period of time, like Easter Sunday or Thanksgiving. But if it’s someone you see all the time or live with, then you HAVE to say something so they don’t drive you crazy.
4.) Friends Who Are Never on Time. If you want to teach them a lesson, just stop waiting for them. For example, if you’re supposed to have dinner with friends, the whole group shouldn’t sit there hungry just because one person is late.
Obviously if it’s a one-time thing, then you SHOULD wait for them. But if you stop waiting for someone who’s chronically late, they’ll eventually adjust their behavior. Or there’s a chance they’ll just get angry and say YOU’RE a jerk.
5.) Noisy Neighbors. Chances are they don’t know they’re being so loud. And if you just knock on their door and ask them to keep it down, they will.
Or if it’s late at night and you don’t want to actually confront them about it, it’s okay to bang on the wall a few times.
Just don’t call the building manager or the cops unless you absolutely have too. Because you’re almost guaranteed to make an enemy if you do.