A Psychologist who works with teenagers asked them recently to compile a list of grievances they have with their parents. If you have teenagers, I’m pretty sure you can guess more than half the list before you see it.
So try and see how many you can guess before you go inside and see the list.
The good news is a future list will have the same teens tell you what they like about their parents, so really you’re getting the bad news first.
1. They really dislike when their parents call their teachers without letting them know.
2. Teens everywhere are embarrassed when parents share what they told them in confidence.
3. They don’t like being spoken about as if they are not present.
4. When you brag about them publicly, they want to crawl into a hole.
5. They beg that you not compare them to siblings.
6. They dislike when you expect that they will do things wrong or not at all.
7. Teens want you to ask them once to do things. If you make repeated requests, they say they feel like not doing it at all.
8. Of course, they dislike when you make assumptions about them that are not true.
9. They particularly dislike the comment “I know you better than you know yourself.”
10. They feel very distressed when you talk negatively about their friends.
I think the Fresh Prince said it best back in 1989: